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  • Maxwell books
  • Jargon - can be used blindly or effectively to screen for those who are deeply on the same page.
  • Ends, Ways, and Means
  • The Effective Executive
  • Linchpin
  • Everyone communicates few connect
  • The 360° leader
  • The art of communicating
  • How to Win friends and influence people
  • EQ applied
  • Working with Difficult People, Second Revised Edition
  • Impro
  • His finding were that it really came down to two things:
  • Dr. John Gottman was able to predict with nearly 90% accuracy, which couples would get a divorce, simply by the way they argued. He worked with a mathematician on it and developed a formula which was so accurate and could be applied so broadly, it was even able to predict when countries would go from rhetorical and trade conflict, to all out war. It can be applied to any entity having a dispute, absolutely amazing.
  1. Could they stay on topic, and discuss the heart/cause of the problem as opposed to the manifested facets. Could they discuss the disease, and not just the symptoms, and
  2. Were they respectful in their discourse, or did they degrade to personal attacks that did not address the issue at hand.

  • Choosing your battles strategically is definitely the key, as many people argue about how they feel, as opposed to what the heart of the problem is, or they make fights out of things that should not be an issue.
  • Actually, I think Dr. Gottman's work does support the idea of focusing on solvable problems. In his book he spends several chapters discussing the difference between 'solvable' and 'unsolvable' problems, and suggests that couples should seek to reach compromises continually on unsolvable problems, but acknowledge that they will never go away. I'm sure the concept is more complex than I've described it here, but I actually think that this article is in agreement with his theory.
  • His book is called The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, in case you're interested in reading it and haven't already. I highly recommend it!
  • Have you ever had to double your team as quickly as possible? Find candidates with very specific and scarce experience? I’ve been there multiple times, both in the US and internationally, and I haven’t always done it right.It can feel like an impossible challenge, especially in a tight job market, to find someone with the necessary functional experience, the right background or industry and the right culture fit and mindset. But when you do find those people, it’s magical.Whether hiring for a Fortune 500 or a fast-growing startup, I have found these guidelines - and challenges - to be true.1. “Renters” vs “Owners”When you rent a car, do you take it to the car wash? Do you make sure you check the oil and tire pressure? Unless you are a very unique person, the answer is no. You just use it for the ride.You want people at your company who aren’t just along for the ride (or paycheck) but are invested in the outcome. The best employees are often those who seek you out and are truly inspired by the mission. They want to make a difference and have an impact. They are “owners,” not “renters”. Find those people.The ability to think and do.It’s hard to find people who can think and do. It doesn’t matter how junior or senior the person is - at every level, everyone needs the ability to think and do.At the junior level, it’s often challenging to find someone who can see the forest from the trees, since they spend much of their time on execution. Without much experience, it can be difficult to understand not just what to do, but what it means. In this case, I am really looking for common sense. Does what I’m being asked to do make sense? If I am marketing to runners, would I use a photo of professional basketball players?At the senior level, they will be doing more strategic thinking. However, you cannot have someone who only sees the forest and doesn’t realize there are individual trees. I still need that person to be able to execute effectively, even if the definition of execution is different at this level. I once had someone who could think very strategically, but they repeatedly had mistakes in their marketing campaigns.One size does not fit allBe very conscious of the stage of the company you are in and the type of employee who will be most successful. There are people who do better in startups. There are people who do better in big companies. Some people can go between stages or sizes of companies, but not all. There are people who find joy in starting from a blank piece of paper or creating order out of chaos. There are others who operate best when there is an established process to follow. Neither is wrong; it’s a matter of finding the right fit for you and the employee.There is no I in teamThis is a cliche, but I cannot emphasize it enough. There are so many people who are jockeying for position and are looking to demonstrate their individual “victories.” When it’s all about them and their recognition, ultimately the team loses. Running any business is a team sport - you win and lose based on the team outcome.The best people make the entire team better, while the not-so-great stand on the shoulders of others to make themselves seem taller.Some people think others don’t see what they do, the way they try to shine brighter than the rest of the team. Those are not the people you want on your team.Sometimes you end up with someone who is genuinely talented, but cannot work with others. Known as the “brilliant jerk,” they can add tons of value, but only if placed in the right position where their brilliance can be tapped without negatively impacting the rest of the team. If they detract from the team outcome, and a substantial amount of your time is spent dealing with them, no amount of individual contribution can compensate for the damage done to your team and company.The silent heroSometimes the most valuable employee is someone who doesn’t call attention to herself and isn’t proclaiming “victories.” Some examples:The employee who took it upon herself to teach the summer interns. 23 years old, barely out of school herself, but we called her “Professor Daniela” for the number of times she was in front of a white board teaching someone something. Talk about a rock star.The employee who got up at 4am on Easter Sunday to get a graphic done for an event that day. I didn’t ask her to do that. She did it anyway. The same employee catches the balls other people drop. She catches them even before I am aware they are dropped. Invaluable team member.The employee who makes a point of organizing informal team lunches, recognizing major life events in people’s lives, highlighting people who are less likely to brag about their accomplishments and making people feel good on a daily basis. When I had checked this person’s references, I was told, “she brings joy to the workplace.” She sure does.These are the people who go above and beyond to do the right thing, without being asked, and without people watching. These are the silent heroes of your company.You don’t create silent heroes, but you can find them. You can’t always tell who they are in the interview process, but you will hear about them in their references. Listen to the words people use to describe them. You can tell when a reference is saying the “right thing” vs something genuinely special. Listen carefully.
  • “All good things come to it, walk, don’t run to it At times you want to end it all yourself, don’t do it Be original, be different Be the one that stand up and shocks this system”
  • https://qz.com/work/1010784/good-managers-give-constructive-criticism-but-truly-masterful-leaders-give-constructive-praise/
  • Dalio has great insights RE radical transparency and meritocracy
  • Talk about how democracy requires participation and a sharing of ideas, and effortful thinking. "That's your job" is antisocial, anticollaborative, antidemocratic.

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    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intercultural_competence